Somethin’ Somethin’

somethinhonest

In an effort to get back to our roots (expressing WHO we truly are on this blog – our journey in life), we decided to open it up and let something personal out… Something Honest. Something True. Something Heartfelt. This is what WE think, how we feel , and what we question on a beautiful day like today:

We decided to get married 10 days after we started dating. We’re scared to raise a daughter in Southern California. Life is complex. Being prego with Joelle was a complete surprise to us. Child-rearing is extremely challenging (we pretty much don’t know what we’re doing) and yet, being parents is way more rewarding than we ever imaged. What’s with H.O.A.? What kind of person honestly has the time or desire to pink-slip people in their neighborhood for lame-ass stuff… are there not bigger things in life to worry about? Say the fact that you’re a “dirt bag”… you should be concerned about that :) We went out on a smokin’ hot date the other night… sushi is the best!!! We need to go on dates together more often. We moved to Bend, Oregon without jobs or a vehicle, rented a place online and drove a rented mini-van from San Diego to Bend with everything we owned in it. We now have way too much stuff. Because our personalities don’t balance each other out, we have a hard time living in balance and we tend we live in extremes. We believe the issues of human suffering should be more important than whales, trees, global warming or bunnies. We’re burnt out on church, hate the “show”, and often question the form our faith has taken. The newest car we own was built in 1996 – almost 13 years old… and that’s the way we like it (our other car was born in 1991). Radio is the worst. We love love love traveling. Over the last year we accidently got addicted to way too many TV shows. We default to Mexican food for dinner. We don’t have one group of friends but travel around to various different groups. We’ve tried mixing them together and it hasn’t really worked out quite yet. Gary’s first job: paperboy. Courtney’s first job: playing her harp. We’ve been fired from working at churches. Of all the furniture we own, only one piece is new…the rest is from Craigslist and Goodwill. We have the most supportive families ever. Gary doesn’t read books… of any kind. Courtney is addicted to reading. Gary is addicted to working. We’re generally not very introspective.  As much as we love the people on Maui, we never want to live there again. Our government is a joke. We want to raise our kids overseas. We have no debt.  We don’t have “our shit together“… never have, probably never will. We’re overly excited to move to the beach. Christians are often too spiritually minded to be any earthly good. Being engaged was hell on earth for us. The happiest day of our life together was… um, the day we got engaged (ironically enough)… what a story though!!! Ask us sometime and we’ll share. We are one of the few people in our groups of friends who DID NOT vote for Obama. We stalk peoples blogs (religiously), and they most likely have no clue we exist… blog stalkers are welcome here – you’re among friends. Today we had Costco pizza for lunch. Back in the day we both were employed by Starbucks at the same time (trained together in the same store) – that didn’t last long… we’re not nice enough people. Life is ultimately messy… but we have hope.

What’s somethin’ honest & somethin’ true that’s on your mind? We’d love to hear from you.

  • laura

    i like the part about the questioning the form your faith has taken. it makes me think. it makes me wonder what it was ever meant to be. i have been thinking a lot lately if I would have been brave enough to proclaim Jesus when he was here on earth and if really faced with it being a life and death decision if I am truly brave enough to proclaim him now. i think the one thing i constantly come back to is that the mystery and evolution of our spirituality is meant to exist. maybe it is a copout, maybe its the truth. still deciding every day. i love you guys and your little dimply baby girl. you are such a blessing and breath of fresh air.

  • http://grace-studio.net cousin tari donohue

    got fired from working at churches? so many of us can relate, which is probably why we don’t ‘do’ church now. someone told me the best church is the one we walk around in every day.

    i think you mean ‘stalk’ people’s blogs.

    carry on!

  • http://www.morgancreativeconcepts.com Erin Geddes

    I have to say that I’ve drooled at your success in the design/print/photography….maybe even envied the life you have. For someone who went to college and I am monthly reminded with my student loan payments for something I have put aside to become a Youth pastor and later on fully ordained and serving with my Husband. The wedding photography biz is its own beast and after getting other jobs doing commercial work, I can’t keep up with getting the right stealer equipment and gigs to really pull it off. Not to mention talking to the groom was pointless since we all know the bride calls the shots. As much as I love my ministry that is going on, I grew up in my later youth with your wife’s father preaching and miss it each Sunday. I have a love/hate relationship with SoCal myself. So I will continue to read you and your wife’s twitter statuses and be that fly on the wall who will continue to lay it all down at the cross for because I love my heavenly father that much.

  • http://theyoungrens.com Jeff

    This is super inspiring :) I love this about you guys…I just sat here for a few minutes thinking about what to write that’s real and honest and it simply felt really good just to think through things from that angle.

    So, me being honest: I feel like I live in a dream world with how blessed and encouraged my friends make me feel. I feel so loved by my friends I could cry :)

  • Mary Taft

    I love you guys so much! Reading all of that brought a smile to my face on a pretty bummed-out day so thanks for that!!

  • http://www.JonnyUps.com JonnyUps

    Something honest…wow, sometimes I am too honest. Honestly, I went through a time in my life, the last couple years, where I felt I had no friends. Strangely, I had too many! But if we’re going for honest, there it is. My self esteem was low, and I would let myself get down for no reason at all. I’ve come full circle and now realize how important each friendship is. God is good. That’s my honesty. Can’t wait to see you guys, and grab fish tacos with you on the coast. :)

  • http://www.garyachristenson.com Gary

    Thank you all for your comments thus far. Being honest with yourself is a beautiful thing. Hard to do though – especially when we’re all so concerned with what others think about us… but it’s refreshing to let life be life and acknowledge that we’re on this journey and don’t have all the answers. I think we’re often too quick to find immediate answers to the things that concern / perplex us, rather than just asking the question, acknowledging that we don’t know the answer and then letting it come to an honest conclusion as time allows. Thanks again everyone. Much love. G&C

  • Lyndsey

    I totally blog stock too, including your guys’ :) Also, we didn’t vote for Obama either, so we can join your small group of people who didn’t!

  • Lyndsey

    Also, I can’t believe I just spelled ‘stalk’ as ‘stock’. Let’s pretend that didn’t happen :)

  • http://www.rozells.blogspot.com emilyhabe@hotmail.com

    hey
    been reading ya’lls blog for awhile now! Not sure if I would call myself a “blog stalker” but I am addicted to being inspired by other people, their lives and creativity. I originally found your blog from antioch church in bend oregon. I go to The Village Church in Texas and somehow someone told me about that church in Bend, not sure now how the connection happened? Was it Courtney who was selling those african bead necklaces awhile back at your church??? I have 1,000 necklaces coming to me in 2 weeks from some women adn girls from an orphanage in Africa. God has opened some really cool doors and hopefully I am going to be able to start sending money over to them as I sell the necklaces! We’ll see how it goes! Thanks for sharing pieces of your life!

  • http://krystarinke.com krysta

    we need to get together the second you get settled in. way way way too many similar truths between the two of us.

  • http://koreyo.blogspot.com Korey

    Hi Gary and Courtney, I have been blog stalking you guys for some time now, so I suppose it’s time to come clean…I am a friend of Krysta’s and I live in the OC. I loved the truths, and I’d love to hear the engagement story and why that time was so difficult. I can imagine that moving back to So Cal with a baby will be difficult, but there are wonderful people here, you have a strong support network, and you can make life whatever you want it to be. That said, feel free to contact me if you guys need anything! :)

  • http://web.mac.com/katherinemckern/ Katherine McKern

    I’ve blog stalked you for a really long time. Playing worship in Bend with you was a blast and I thank God we were able to share in that together. I’m completely jealous of your photography skills (Gary), and admire your harp skills and utter beauty (Courtney). I love that you guys are real. Something honest? I find myself not wanting to go to “church” more and more, and then wonder if I’ll be “re-saved” in my 40s or 50s like so many Christians are. Will I cry as I read my testimony out loud to the congregation? I don’t WANT to go to church. I can’t escape the political part of it that has consumed every other part of this life. Something true? I grew up in soCal and hate it here more then I love it. Reading about other people’s life and/or hardships helps me feel not so alone in mine.

  • http://ericaannphotography.com Erica Ann

    Love, Love, Love your website and blog! You two are obviously an amazing team! Thank you for the truth in this post. I still can’t believe that my husband, (HUSBAND!) voted for Obama. Whatever. Jesus still loves him. Thanks for being all things awesome.

  • Nathan Strubhar

    I follow your blog pretty faithfully even though I don’t even have a blog. But you know how it is… you always want to keep up on the people you love and don’t see very often. Something honest… I wish you would reconsider moving back to Maui, but I understand. Church is really confusing sometimes, even frustrating. But I love people way too much to stay away. I don’t understand Churches being in debt. My wife and I think that your daughter is the cutest thing in the world. I love your guys’ ambition for life and the love of God and people. I think and talk too much about things that I want to do…I should just do them. I love the fact that me and Gary took a nap together at Drake Park the first day we ever met. I have never heard Courtney play her harp. My brother says it’s kind of like heaven. My wife and I love the fact that you guys are doing your business together. We secretly want to be like you. Um… I think that’s it. I love you guys so much. Oh yeah, one more thing-my favorite picture ever of Gary is when you had a knife in your mouth and you were holding two dead geese by the neck(Amazing). Hope to see you soon.